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Verse
I came in on my tiptoes
Didn’t try to take your mommas place
Just tried to hold you when you broke
Wipe tears from your face
When your man passed,I stayed up
Every call, every late-night text
Held your kids, held my tongue
Tried to love through the mess
But when my momma was sick and took her last breath
You were quiet like a closed door
Not a “you good?”, not a “I’m here”
Just colder than ever before
And all that silence cut me
Deeper than any word could
Thought we were finally getting somewhere
Guess I misunderstood
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Why is it so hard to be her stepmom?
Why does every hug feel like a test I’m gonna bomb?
I showed up for your pain
You ghosted mine, that’s wrong
Feels like I’m begging for a place I should belong
Why is it so hard to be her stepmom?
You turn the little ones to weapons in this storm
I keep praying for some peace
All I get is more alarm
Family shouldn’t feel like walking into war zone
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You say I’m fake, cool
You say I’m never gonna be “real blood”
But when your world was underwater
Who was sandbagging that flood?
Who was packing snacks, packing bags
Running errands, running back
Who was standing by your side
When your whole mind went black?
You always throwing, slick shade, slick talk
Call me names on your phone when you pissed off
Tell the kids I’m nothing, “she ain’t really there”
But who’s clapping at the game sitting in those empty chairs?
You weaponize birthdays, holidays, everything
Use the kids like a pawn for a petty win
I ain’t perfect, but I ain’t your enemy
I’m just tired of you building walls around this family tree
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When my momma left this world
And I was shattered on the bathroom floor
Thought at least you’d send “I’m sorry”
But you intentionally watched quietly from the shore
Felt your silence like a sentence
But lie and say you have nothing against me
Guess your love got conditions
Why not choose love over being vindictive
You throw dirt on my name
Like it helps you clean your wounds
But it only plants resentment
And it’s growing in these rooms
I kept showing up for you
You keep sharpening your tongue
I’m grown you will never have me feeling
Like an unwelcome guest in his heart and in my home
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Why is it so hard to be her stepmom?
Every little fight feels like a lifelong scar
I was there when your sky
Fell apart went dark
But when mine did, you just watched from afar
Why is it so hard to be her stepmom?
You drag the kids inside every little war
I keep begging for some peace
Some simple, gentle norm
Why can’t we build a place that don’t feel torn?
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I ain’t tryna steal your father, I’m tryna share him
Tried to add a chair, you keep tryin’ to tear it
Pull it from the table when I finally sit down
Smile in his face, roll your eyes when I’m around
You think pain is a prize that you get to claim
Like I can’t miss my momma ‘cause we don’t share a name
Like my tears don’t count
‘Cause I walked in late
You keep countin’ old hurts like a scorecard
You keep betting on the hurt, never on my heart
But every kid in this crossfire feels that heat
They don’t need more lies, they need grown folks to speak
I wish you’d drop the armor for a second
See the woman that’s tryna bridge the tension
I’m not asking you to love me like you “should”
I’m just askin’ you to treat me like someone who meant good
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Sometimes I dream of Sunday
Where we laugh in the same room
Kids running, plates clinking
And you not plotting your next move
Just a picture on the fridge
All of us in one frame
You and me side by side
God please heal this family broken chain
Chorus
Why is it so hard to be her stepmom?
Why does every hug feel like a test I’m gonna bomb?
I showed up for your pain
You ghosted mine, that’s wrong
Feels like I’m begging for a place I should belong
Why is it so hard to be her stepmom?
You turn the little ones to weapons in this storm
I keep praying for some peace
All I get is more alarm
Family shouldn’t feel like they’re walking into a war zone
Family shouldn’t feel like they’re walking into a war zone
Family shouldn’t feel like they’re walking into a war zone